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Weekend Update – Magnetic Sand Edition

A fun-filled weekend – now Sunday evening as I write this.

On Friday, we played at the Traverse City Country Club with Grandma and Grandpa Jonkhoff and C, B, M, and M, and painted pots. Harvey and I stayed later, and putted around. It’s fun to see him be interested in playing golf, although he can decide how much he likes it in the long run.

On Saturday, the boys and I had a lazy start, and then went to the RC Car shop to check on my miniature Hummer. It wasn’t done – not even started! The boys eyeballed the other RC cars and picked out their favorites. We escaped with only an antenna and battery.

In the evening, the boys and Lindsey drew an entire city in chalk on the driveway. Harvey drove his RC car around and parked in different spots.

On Sunday, we went with Grandma and Grandpa Rogers, K, T, L, and E and had lunch from Art’s Tavern at the playground and then went to Bohemian Beach. There was black sand sand at the beach, which we learned was magnetic in nature. This was proved later at home by Harvey and Carson in the garage with magnets. They’ve asked Uncle Brian for stronger magnets!

Lindsey and I watched two movies this weekend:

The week ahead – will Carson lose his loose tooth?! It will be the first on top to go.

On Children

By: Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.


I bought a hair trimmer and cut HARVEY and CARSON’s hair tonight. First time. Never would have done it if we weren’t under the “Star at Home” Executive Order to slow the coronavirus pandemic.

The Bench

Here are the directions to the Jonkhoff / Rogers bench along the trails of the Old Mission Point Park, one of our favorite hiking locations and where I proposed to Lindsey (although, not right where the bench is). We gave the bench to our parents as a gift at our wedding reception.

“Grow old along with me; the best is yet to be.”

~ Robert Browning


I am writing this on April 8, 2020. We have been subject to a Stay Home, Stay Safe order by Governor Whitmer for three weeks now and expect it to continue for at least another three weeks (through the end of April). We’re also advised by federal and state health authorities to “socially distance,” which means to stay six or more feet from people who do not live under the same roof.

We – the whole world I believe – has become far more attuned to hand washing, proximity, touching. The repercussions of this pandemic could be long-lasting, depending on when and whether a vaccine is created (discovered?) for COVID-19.

The boys school let out two weeks ahead of the regularly scheduled spring break, and initially expected to resume when spring break was over (last Monday). Instead, in-person schooling was cancelled for the remainder of the 2019-20 school year. The district is required to piece together various means of teaching, so that they can maintain their funding. We’re beginning to hear more from Harvey’s teacher and Carson’s teacher, but the task is quite large.

I have received hundreds of emails mentioning coronavirus, COVID-19. Most everyone begins or closes correspondence or calls with, “Stay safe,” or “Stay healthy.” The concern is real. TV advertising has been modified. The late night shows, and many others, are broadcasting from home.

The concept of “essential workers” and “non-essential workers” has resulted in record unemployment claims, $2 trillion plus in government assistance, etc.

Harvey’s birthday party – instead of being the usual large family gathering or the group of friends at Incredible Mo’s – will be a parade of firetrucks and family with decorated vehicles. And we may celebrate by standing in the yard, at a distance, observing each other, but not hugging or shaking hands or wrestling. I’m sure it will be wonderful and fun, but it will be different than any other birthday I’ve experienced in my 38 years – and I’m sure the grandparents could say the same.

Carson is worried that his friends won’t be able to attend his birthday party in June – two months away. And I’m not sure – it’s a maybe. As much as he and Harvey are enjoying the time at home, they miss their friends. They ask when the distancing will end and when they can play freely with friends without an adult monitoring or stepping in.

We’ve all become more adept at conference calls and video conferencing. We’re working from home – the whole office! Testing our virtual communication skills. It’s going well, but different.

Those are a smattering of memories from the past month. We’ll see what the months to come provide.