Veterans Day

Thank you to all of the veterans who fought for the freedom of the United States of America. I cannot imagine the bravery, selflessness or call to duty to which you committed yourself, and it is something that will forever move me.

It is impossible to argue that I do not take for granted the freedom for which you have risked your life, for no amount of thanks or recognition that I or anyone else gives you could revive what you, your families and friends could have lost – your vigor – your pep – your esprit – your life — your love.

My late grandfather, Clifton Francis Rogers, served for two years on the USS Rowan, landing in Nagasaki. Whether I was too young or it didn’t seem right, I never thanked him for serving, but his service was and continues to be one of the many things I admire about him.

My uncle John Goebel served. Thank you, Uncle John, for your service.

My uncle Guy Goebel served. Thank you, Uncle Guy, for your service.

My uncle Jon Palomaki served. Thank you, Uncle Jon, for your service.

Finding Meaning

It is just me or do you, too, ever look back at how you spent a day and wish you could have done more with it? Today was not one of those days, but I’ve have a few lately that, if I could tweak them a little, I would. I’m not talking about the days when bizarre or unexpected stuff happens that messes up what you had planned to accomplish. What I’m talking about is those instances when you chose to do a task that, even in the short run, didn’t have that high of a value to you.

For example, a few days ago I opted to sync my Google contacts list with my Apple AddressBook. This wasn’t hard, but it took about an hour by the time I sorted through stuff and shifted files around. This is a chore that I know will make me happy in the very short run. I’ll be able to say, for about 24 hours, that I have no duplicates in my contacts list, that the information is accurate and well organized. In just over a week, however, discrepancies work their way back in, there are two John Smiths, etc. So, I look back at that hour I spent and wonder why I bothered. Did I spend my time wisely?

Multiply that experience by several dozen and you get what I and most people in the digital age deal with on a monthly basis. I don’t have to look hard to find some transient discrepancy within my own little world that could use sprucing up. But why? What is the cost? And what is the alternative?

Why re-sort my storage shed instead of trying to write a book? Why search for duplicate songs in my iTunes instead of learning how to better invest my savings? There are a dozen trade-offs that I face everyday, and many times I make productive decisions, but there is also a lot of waste. The waste is getting to me because there are an increasing number of distractions (for whatever reason).

A certain order is necessary, and a variable amount of time and effort is required to maintain that order. But I’ve always believed in two things:

  1. Little things done right can change big wrong things; and
  2. Never let the big picture fall (too far) out of focus.

I propose that instead of doing something mindless and long-run-irrelevant, find meaning in something – even the little things. I’ll do the same, and the collective improvement will leave us both feeling better about our days past and our days to come.

Personal Betterment Metrics

Do you, in all active and passive decisions and actions, seek to better yourself? Probably not, and neither do I, but it is interesting to think about trying to seek to improve our individual existence and that of our surrounding world with each action and decision we make.

I do strive to better myself over the long run. I work out most days, but not everyday. I eat well sometimes, but not every meal. I undertake challenging tasks like building my own website, learning more about photography, or working on being a more empathetic human being. I’ve just recently finished going to school, but plan on learning my entire life. (How can you not?) I read books, articles, and blog posts about interesting things.

When you look at the big picture, I do a lot of things at different times that make me feel as though I am improving, but there is no defined strategy and I have no reliable way of measuring my progress.

I’m not sure what to think about this thought other than what I’ve found most rewarding is moderation and balance. I’m not sure that approach will make me the most successful, but it often leaves me happiest and is the most sustainable in the long run. With a little patience, grand things can be accomplished over time.

What is your approach? Goals? Don’t care? Too busy to worry about it?

What Are We If Not Potential?

Pop!Tech is a:

unique innovation network – a global community of cutting-edge leaders, thinkers, and doers from many different disciplines, who come together to explore the social impact of new technologies, the forces of change shaping our future, and new approaches to solving the world’s most significant challenges. We are known for our thriving community of thought-leaders, breakthrough innovation programs, visionary annual conferences and deep media and storytelling capabilities.

I attended the conference in 2004 when I worked for Ruckus. I vividly remember the trip north from Washington D.C. – arriving in Portland, Maine on a JetBlue flight – driving up the coast to Camden, Maine where Pop!Tech takes place – the classic coastal views of water crashing against the rocky shore – beautiful leaves full of red, orange and yellow – the Talking Heads blasting on my car radio. By the time I arrived in cozy Camden, I was on an emotional high like none other I’d experienced before and had no idea how transforming the next few days would be.

The conference astonished me. I couldn’t believe how many ideas, things and experiences there were beyond those I held personally. I tried to capture as much of the conference as possible by furiously taking notes and recording the conference on my iPod. (I didn’t know that it would later be available online and they had yet to start showing it live or post videos – now they do both.)

I quickly realized that there was no way that I could process all of the information being presented, and didn’t, and still haven’t! I’ve still got the notes and look at them from time to time. I’ve kept up online since, but the experience isn’t the same as when you’re sitting in the Camden Opera House elbow to elbow with a bunch of geeks, entrepreneurs, artists, and thinkers. There is an atmosphere to it – an atmosphere that I’ve found present few other places – Sundance to a degree, the Traverse City Film Festival, and a handful of undergrad and law school lectures.

For all of the schooling I’ve been through at the University of Michigan and the Franklin Pierce Law Center, I look back and must say that I am underwhelmed by both of the experiences. There are a scant few professors, classes, and individual lectures that moved me the way Pop!Tech did/does. There is a difference – conferences have exciting presenters and powerful streamlined flashy ideas. I don’t care. At the end, higher education should be as powerful as a good conference presentation. Students should leave each semester with an excitement and hunger for more information.

If I were to travel back, knowing what I now know, I would do only two things differently. First, I would major in English instead of Economics. I thought I would make more money majoring in Economics. Whether that was true or not, I now view it a foolish. I should have followed my heart and my talents, which both fell firmly in the English Department. Second, I would worry more about the courses that captivated me than those that fulfilled some predetermined study path – e.g., concentrating on financial economics, etc. I closed a lot of doors before I looked through them.

As I walk through life meeting new people, moving to new places, and attempting new challenges, I am slowly coming to the realization that doing is living – that if I don’t open my mouth or take the first step or make a decision then the world will continue and I will stay. I think back to Pop!Tech 2004 when I say that because although I took in a lot of information at that conference and it exposed me to many new things, I didn’t stick out my hand and introduce myself, I didn’t realize how much I had to give, and I still feel as though I’m hoarding my experience and knowledge. It bring me to tears, as I write this, to think about what I could do and what I have done and I feel as though I’ve let the world down. I realize that’s a very narcissistic thing to say, but the feeling of great personal potential is something I’ve come to believe is integral to being human. What are we if not potential? There is a bigger message here than me feeling a responsibility to make this world better – it is that we should all be doing our part everyday to make this world a better place to live in now and in the future.

With all of that said, I’ve been watching a good deal of the 2009 Pop!Tech conference via their live stream. I like the theme this year – America Reimagined. It places the focus on home, while showing what we can do to make a better world. I am personally setting goals for the coming year that will change the feeling of lost potential and make the world a better place for all of us.

Dear Grandchildren

Mike Lewis inquired in his blog entry, “Things We’ll Say to Our Grand Kids,” (Link) about the things will tell our grandchildren about today that the grandchildren will be unfamiliar with. This was inspired by a Wired magazine article. (Link) Mike and Wired each came up with some good ones.

Here are some that I expect to say:

  • My electric toothbrush used to be the size of a banana.
  • It used to cost a lot of money to travel into outer space.
  • Things used to wear out before nanotechnology.
  • We all used to drive individual cars.
  • The weather wasn’t always completely under our control.
  • Sports leagues weren’t always international, but were merely national.
  • There used to be farmers in America.
  • Batters only lasted a few hours before needing to be recharged.
  • Gay marriage was only permitted in three states in 2009.
  • Kids used to have to go to a physical school, not just join in online.
  • I used to buy text books, not just download them to my tablet multiple use device.
  • In my day, health care wasn’t what it is today.
  • We used to regularly replace light bulbs.
  • There were only two main political parties when I started voting.
  • Not many people recycled when I was growing up.
  • There was much less green space than there is now.
  • There used to be these things called traffic jams.
  • My boss used to make me go to the office.
  • I used to only work for one company at a time.
  • There were only 50 states when I was younger.
  • I’m not sure I like these new smell televisions.

Here are some that I hope to say:

  • There used to be (such-and-such) disease.
  • We cured global warming by…
  • There used to be wars in which humans fought each other in hand-to-hand combat.
  • Hunger used to be a problem.
  • Racism? Sexism? You’re not aware of these?
  • We used to cut down trees to make paper.

For Every Friend

Maintaining friendships is a daunting task, which is why we seem to leave so many friends behind at each stage of our lives. When we are young, it is the switching from schools – elementary to junior high to high to college to graduate – that often changes our personal milieu and with that our friends. Sometimes we travel equal distances, but to different places – you may head to the west to pursue your doctorate in construction engineering and I may travel east to get my law degree. Other times you travel further than I, or not as far. It is each of these changes that leads us down a slightly different path than that of even our best of friends who, at one time long ago in elementary school, dreamed the same dreams.

With that said, I recently read a New York Times blog post titled, “The Referendum,” which elaborates one what I’ve said above, but hits on a slightly different point – that by middle age we resent one another for making different decisions than us. The idea that we are all rational beings (interested only in our own self-advancement and happiness) has long since been shot to hell, either because we are not rational or because the success of others can, honestly, increase our own well being. I hope that the reason is a little of each.

The one sentence from the aforementioned post that most resonates with me is a James Salter quote that reads as follows:

For whatever we do, even whatever we do not do prevents us from doing its opposite. Acts demolish their alternatives, that is the paradox.

Accepting this, and I believe we must or risk being reactionary beings, is absolutely necessary to moving forward in life. If we do not live believing that with each door that opens we must close one, then we can not advance our work, family, or individual existences. Years ago, a family friend commented that one of the most daunting obstacles upon graduation from high school is having to close doors for the first time in our lives. It is the first time when we are forced to make a major decision – to go to college? and what college? For the now lucky many, college is a reality they must choose. But the demolition does not stop with choosing a major. In the long run, that is as insignificant as one’s grade school GPA. Yet in the present, every minute detail matters so much that, if we look back and see a discrepancy between our decision and that of our friends, then it is impossible not to feel something – anything at all – be it positive or negative. (Cite)

I hope for the sake of my future middle-aged self that I am not as rational as my economics degree would have me be and that I make enough “right” decisions to be satisfied with who I am when I look across the table at my old friends at reunions, tailgates, etc.